Some people are ready to sabotage themselves as soon as they have seen some failures; I am astonished to see those people. I had seen someone destroy himself when he moved to another country; it is not natural for anyone to feel depressed, undermined, lonely, and many other feelings. Nevertheless, forget to accept wherever we are that we must fight back, I am not saying to go out and fight with other people, but they have to fight back with their feelings.

It is easy to fail but difficult to succeed; this person says his name was Peter when he was in his country; he was a respectable person. Had a good family and a job but did not have an outstanding education, with the small amount of money that he contributed most of it to his family. Unfortunately, after moving to another country, he completely changed just because, for a few reasons, one is he lost his community, and the other one did not have the respect from others as he had in his home country. He failed to realize the fact people are not going to pay you respect when they see you; consideration must earn.

I would say all this was due to stubbornness, ignorance, and arrogance. Therefore, Peter went downhill, and lost all jobs wherever he went to work; he asked to leave because of his behavior due to active addiction. That was understandable. The people did not want to keep him on the job as they were running the business to see profits.  

By the time he went, he had become a severe alcoholic. He started to fight with everyone he met for some reason or the other ultimately; he has caught by the security forces, not for any significant offense. Still, for his attitude of fighting with other people overall, he appeared to be a disgrace to his family. He was fortunate that his family gave him incredible support. At the time, he destroyed everything, himself, the money, family reputation, and lost, everything at the end diagnosed with a lifetime illness. 

The reason why I am writing about this person is a self-destroyer, not for any serious reason around him. Still, it affected the rest of the people around this person, so when you are sabotaging yourself, you are dragging the people around with you on that path without even showing a sense of gratitude.

It is up to us to control our minds and think that we are not less than anybody is. We have our strengths, focus on our strengths, and build a high wall. We then forget anything that has happened in the past and learned to live in the present. Peter became distressed for many reasons; he thought he was a failure and not wanted by his family and had a feeling of loneliness.

 I will not agree with that point if people do not want you, must live life to attract people towards you instead of sabotaging yourself and mobbing the people away.

Some couples become the envy of each other and want to continue living like that say, for example, if the wife is doing better than the husband is, "he will think that my wife is better than me." Therefore, she will not like me, and he gets withdrawn. Alternatively, he will have subtle thoughts if I am down, and I will bring her down that sort of extreme bad attitude some people have.

If a man thinks not accepted by his family instead of going to sabotage himself, he should live life to get them back; you must love yourself before loving others. If you learn to love yourself, you will not go to the extent of sabotaging yourself. When you lose hope, your inner mind will lose confidence in you which will lead to self-sabotage.

Why should you drop your thoughts?

 Do you have a financial, physical, or emotional reason to lose your mind?

Currently, the availability of opportunities is very high. It will be a complete waste of someone's life if you lose your mind, and you will look like such a weak personality with an upfront attitude "I am not good enough." People who are all out to sabotage themselves do not think about the shame that they are bringing on themselves.