Someone who is overcommitted to looking after their family beyond their abilities may be self-sabotaging himself or herself by thinking that I have no life at least let me help others. Nevertheless, currently, in busy life people do not put others in front of themselves and completely forget other people's difficulties. I am not saying that one person is using the other person to his advantage; it is a matter of fact, continually thinking about their problems.

Therefore, the person who is committed to looking after others become self-sabotaged. It is up to them to sort the problem, remembering others are not going to care about you. There is a limit to everything; sacrificing your life also should have a deadline, and do not forget to love yourself.

Self-sabotaging is very common in lots of families, sometimes the parents work hard for the family and have few expectations from the children. The parents do not study the children's educational world, the society the children live in, and finally, yet importantly, the child might not be capable of fulfilling the parent's expectations in the case of a single parent. You worked hard for the child, and it is within reason you expect good things from your child, but your child turns down everything and becomes a complete failure; it affects you severely.

Then it becomes a worrier for you, and you will go downhill that is self-sabotaging yourself. That may be for many reasons you do not want to see the child going to be worse off in life, your family's prestige gets affected, or you have put yourself under financial stress. Therefore, all that ends up in self-destruction, now, you have not lost everything, learn to have gratitude thinking that you and your child are surviving with good health.

Now time for you to think that you could gain after the fat loss, gain more confidence but give more help to your child to recover from all that will begin to see better results, that is the way you recover from self- destruction.

The reason for some kids to self-sabotage themselves are:

Unloved children self-sabotage

The parents keep criticizing their kids and try to pass on their fears to their kids, especially the daughters. It may be the reason that they do not achieve their best in their life.

When the parents keep saying to their children from a young age that what they are doing is not good enough sticks in their minds when they reach adulthood, they start to doubt their capabilities and will not try for any progress because they believe in what the parents told them.

Self-criticism

If a man leaves a woman, the woman starts to think, "No wonder he broke up with me. Who would want to be with me anyway?"

"Of course, I didn't get the job. Why would anyone hire me when the employers could hire someone appealing and fast on their feet, instead of someone without charm and intelligence?"

Self-criticism ties into the fraud condition, too, since you bend from blaming yourself for all your failures to not giving yourself credit for your hard work.

When kids are not given encouragement, confidence, and belief in themselves because they were unloved, the kids face self-destructive issues.